Same sex relationship counselling for healthy couples

Often when I have someone in my practice who identifies as LGBTQIA and undertaking same sex relationship counselling, they may be seeking understanding about how their partner’s behaviour affects them. Sometimes behaviour can be abusive and the client will put it down to being part of the LGBTQIA community. For example, I commonly hear ‘oh that is just what happens in the gay community.’ Or ‘this is what you have to put up with being a gay man/lesbian.’